You’re not alone in your anxiety.
Let’s get one thing straight: Carrying another living being inside of your body is no small feat, and loosing that living being is no small tragedy, either – even when it is an early pregnancy loss.
It’s important to know you’re also not alone in your anxiety—according to one 2015 study published in the journal Obstetrics & Gynecology, 41 percent of women surveyed who’d had a miscarriage felt like they did something wrong—and many (incorrectly) believed that lifting heavy objects or being super-stressed may have caused their miscarriages.
In reality, miscarriages (a.k.a. a loss of pregnancy before 20 weeks) happen in about 10 percent of known pregnancies, according to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG)—and half the time, those miscarriages are due to chromosomal abnormalities that can’t be prevented.
Still, that reassurance can only go so far—especially when faced with all the myths circling the internet. So here, we asked Samantha Payne, CEO and Co-Founder of Pink Elephants, to debunk some of the most common myths surrounding early pregnancy loss.
1. It happened early, it wasn’t even a real baby
Overwhelmingly, it is fair to say that to the couple who saw two pink lines on a pregnancy test, who has been daydreaming about their new baby, and a person whose body is already undergoing physical and hormonal changes – it is most definitely a real baby. A much wanted and loved baby. When people say “at least it happened early,” they’re not trying to be mean or unsupportive, but it’s because they don’t understand what you’re going through and the real loss sense of loss you feel.
2. You did something to cause it
Pregnancy loss rarely ever happens because of something the parents did or didn’t do. The most common cause of miscarriage is a chromosomal abnormality in the baby which is a chance occurrence. Even for women between the ages of 35 and 40 (when fertility declines and the chance of miscarriage is higher), the chances are still far higher that you will experience a healthy pregnancy.
3. Husbands or partners aren’t affected
The often-forgotten ones in the pregnancy loss experience are our husbands and partners. Just because your partner isn’t falling in a heap, doesn’t mean they are not also heartbroken by the loss. If you know a couple who has experienced early pregnancy loss, don’t forget to check in with the partner and give them an opportunity to share their feelings – they will appreciate your support.
4. Bleeding is always a sign of early pregnancy loss
In the same way that not all bleeding means miscarriage, the absence of blood is not always a guarantee everything is ok. The term ‘missed miscarriage’ is when a pregnancy has stopped being viable but is not discovered until a routine ultrasound. Usually the woman is still experiencing pregnancy symptoms and is unaware there is anything amiss. This type of early pregnancy loss is a terrible shock and families truly need their circle of support in these heartbreaking moments.
This October, Pink Elephants is running an #AtLeast campaign on social media, encouraging women and families to share their experiences with hearing “at least” and encouraging society to learn better ways to support grieving families. Find out more here.
Source @womenshealth.com.au: Read more at : womenalive.org